Shoes – Jeffrey Campbell
Hat – American Vintage
Shirt – There’s no tag & I have no idea!
Purse – Forever 21
So, I live in one of what is considered the most desired places in the United States. Los Angeles, California! You’d totally think I’d have tons of friends and my life was perfect, right? Wrong! Due to my current job, which I don’t want to discuss right now (someday soon, I will), it’s hard for me to make friends! The reason it’s challenging isn’t because I’m not sociable or that I’m awkward.. it’s simply because my job is isolating. The job hardly allows me to interact with people unless I go out of my way to do so. I’ve had the same job since I graduated college in 2015 and meeting people with similar interests has been a struggle. I’ve never let my isolating job stop me from doing things I want to do though! After I got over the fear of going places alone, I began to realize how awesome it is to still do things I enjoy with and for myself.
Recently, I went to see a band called Uncle Acid & The Deadbeats at this huge venue and stood close to the front all by myself! I made a couple of friends while there too. Before I take myself out on a date, there are a few “rituals” or things I do that help me feel like I’m gonna have a good time! Basically, I romanticize everything I’m doing for myself as I would if I was being picked up or taken out for a date. Everyone’s ideal of romance is a little different but things like taking care & treating myself make me feel amazing. Do whatever works for you if you’re trying to feel more comfortable going places by yourself! Here a few of my own…
The Raven Rituals
Going to any type of music show is one of my favorite things because I get to “dress up”. For some that may be stupid because going to a show is about listening to music. I feel you. However, you can’t deny that music has its own culture within itself in terms of association. That’s why so many young kids nowadays “look” punk but don’t even know who Black Flag or the Sex Pistols are! They dress for association but don’t know its origins on why punks dressed the way they did. If you do associate and actually listen to music, there’s normally a whole culture surrounding the band or genre. Being apart of culture includes looking the part unfortunately. It’s just the way it is.
There’s no harm in dressing a certain way because you want to feel associated to that group but I highly recommend you do you research beforehand. You never know what kind of expression or message you could be sending to others if you’re unaware of what you’re wearing!
Anywho, my blog usually features outfit of the days because natural lighting is the best. During the day, my looks may not be as over the top or extra as some like to call it in comparison to night looks. There’s a whole other side of my wardrobe that I don’t particularly share because I mainly wear it at night and am usually to busy livin’ to think about photos. However, my looks at night are usually black, edgy, and I most likely have a lot of skin showing. I think my night looks show my shadow side. Would you be interested in seeing more outfits of the night? Leave a comment below if so!
with love & light,